Shifting from Correction to Instruction

Children don’t magically know our expectations; they have to be taught. Whether heading to the playground, starting a craft, or gathering for snack time, the most effective way to prevent unwanted incidents is to provide clear expectations before the activity begins. Doing so shifts us from correction (reactive) to instruction (proactive).

The key is sharing expectations before the fun starts. A single discussion isn’t enough, which is why repetition is your greatest tool. Keep it engaging, not a boring script. Try new voices or rhymes. For example, before a painting activity, "Art on the sheet keeps us neat." Another way to remind the children is by turning it into a game like, "Who remembers the 3 big rules for the slide?" When children articulate boundaries themselves, they own them.

When a lapse in judgment occurs—and it will—use it as a "teachable moment" rather than a reprimand. Provide gentle guidance that reinforces the "why" behind the rule. Moving from correction to instruction allows you to feel like a coach rather than a frustrated referee. The result? Children feel capable of making good choices, making your shift smoother, more predictable, and far more rewarding.